The date night game for couples You pick the dates. Your partner plays for one.
Turn date night into a game show: fill 20 envelopes with your own dates, or start from ours and change any you like. Your partner keeps one and turns down the Dealer's offers, round by round. Whatever they end up with is your next date.
One-time payment · Unlimited replays · Any screen, nothing to install
Put it on the TV. Film their face.
The best part isn't even the date: it's watching them play. The Dealer ringing, a NO DATE shouted at the screen, the last seal breaking. Put it on the living room TV, sit next to them and keep your phone ready. That reaction is a video you'll want to keep.
Mirror a phone or tablet, or plug in a laptop. Can't be there? Send the link: it plays on any phone.
What do you want to do tonight? I don't mind, you choose.
It starts with "I don't mind, you choose" and ends like every other night: the couch, two phones, the same show. Tonight, swap it for a game. You'll laugh, argue over whether to take the Dealer's offer and shout at every envelope that opens. The date they win is the prize; the night you spend playing is the gift.
How the game plays
Four rounds, about ten minutes, on whatever screen is closest.
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1
Pick
Your partner chooses one of 20 sealed envelopes. It goes on their pedestal, unopened, for the whole game.
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2Eliminate
Four rounds of cracking seals. Every date they open is a date that is no longer in their envelope.
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3
Resist
After rounds 1, 2 and 3 the Date Dealer rings with an offer you wrote, for their envelope. DATE ends the game and shows what they gave up. NO DATE burns it.
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4Reveal
Stick with their envelope or swap it for the last one. The final seal breaks, and that is the date you go on.
Play the demo
The real game, with sample dates: pick your envelope, open the rest round by round and take the Dealer's calls. Turn the sound on.
Play the demo · 3 minNo sign-up. Like it? Make one for your partner.
Your part takes a few minutes
- Pick what you two like. Food, outdoors, staying in, a trip away. As many as you want.
- We fill every envelope. All 20, plus the Dealer's 3 offers, from 199 ideas. Swap any of them, pick from the list, or write your own.
- Send the link. By text, in a card, or at the right moment. Lock it with a PIN if you like.
Sweet × 8
Cosy and easy, for any weeknight.
- Coffee & croissants
- Movie night in
- Sunset walk
Lovely × 6
A proper evening out.
- Sunset picnic
- Pottery class
- Rooftop cocktails
Dreamy × 4
The kind you book ahead.
- Hot air balloon at dawn
- Spa day for two
- Concert of your choice
Perfect × 2
The jackpot. Only two in the game.
- Weekend in Paris
- Cabin in the mountains
- Tropical beach escape
No Canva. No printing. Works on any screen.
How it compares with the two usual ways of doing a date night game.
| What you get | DateOrNoDate | Canva template | Paper date jar |
|---|---|---|---|
| Date ideas | 199 to choose from, filled for you | You edit them in | You write them |
| Where it's played | TV, laptop, tablet or phone, from a link | A laptop, together | The same room |
| Suspense | 4 rounds, Dealer calls, stick or swap | Clicking slides | Pulling out a slip |
| Playing again | Unlimited, reshuffled each time | Reset it by hand | Refill the jar |
| Price | $3.99, once | Usually $12–20 | An evening of crafting |
When people send it
- As a digital giftIt arrives in seconds and looks like you made them a game, because you did.
- For ChristmasA stocking filler that ends in a night out in January.
- For Valentine's DayInstead of the card, the plan.
- For an anniversaryPut your first date in one of the Perfect envelopes.
- Across the distanceThey play on a video call. The prize is the date you go on when you land.
- Before you startSpin the free generator to see the kind of ideas inside.
Questions
What is DateOrNoDate?
A date night game for couples that you send as a link. You fill 20 envelopes with date ideas (we suggest every one of them), and your partner plays on a TV, laptop, tablet or phone: they pick a mystery envelope, eliminate the rest, deal with the Date Dealer's offers and reveal the date you'll go on together. It costs $3.99, once.
Do I have to come up with 20 date ideas?
No. Tell us what you two like and we fill all 20 envelopes, plus the Dealer's 3 offers, from 199 ideas in four tiers: Sweet, Lovely, Dreamy and Perfect. Swap any you don't love, browse the list, or write your own.
Can we play it on the TV?
Yes, and it's the best way to watch them play. Open the link on a laptop connected to the TV, or mirror your phone or tablet to it (AirPlay, Chromecast or your TV's screen mirroring). The game fills the screen in landscape, sound included.
Does my partner need to download an app or sign up?
No. They open the link in a browser and play. No app, no account, no email. You don't need an account either: we email you the link and a private page with every result.
How much does it cost?
$3.99, one time, paid when your game is ready to send (you can fill and change the envelopes as much as you like before that). No subscription. Every replay reshuffles the envelopes, so you can play it again and again.
Is it cheesy?
A little, on purpose. There's a ringing phone, wax seals that crack, a drum roll before the last reveal. People shout NO DATE at their screen. It plays like a video game, not a greeting card.
What if they win a date we can't afford?
You write or approve every date, so keep them real. Perfect is the jackpot, but it's yours to define: a weekend away, or the restaurant from your first date. Whatever they reveal is the date you plan next.
Is it private?
Game links are private and kept out of search engines. You can lock a game with a 4 to 6 digit PIN, so only someone with the PIN can play. Results are emailed only to you.
What devices does it work on?
Recent iPhones and Android phones, iPads and Android tablets, Mac and Windows laptops, and any TV you can mirror or plug a laptop into. It uses 3D graphics, so very old phones may struggle; the free demo is the quickest way to check.
Can I change the dates after I pay?
No. The envelopes are locked once you send the game, so check them before you pay. Want a different set? Make a new game.
Their next date is in one of these envelopes
Fill the envelopes, send it for $3.99. Then wait for the text that says "NO DATE!!".
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